All You Need is Unconditional Love!
What is unconditional love? It has nothing to do with what movies show or most romance novels. It’s not a long French kiss or those R-rated scenarios. It’s not even those butterflies we think we feel in the pit of our stomach. No, unconditional love is more profound and so much more meaningful. But with all the expectations the world has given us, it can be so difficult to wrap your head around. Let’s try for a moment to break it down.
Do you love someone for their status or their role in life? Do you like what that person does (either for a living or what they do for you)? Do you love someone because of beautiful gifts, money, dinners, or because of familiarity? Do you love solely because it’s returned to you, you think you have to love them, or because they seem to love you? Answering yes to any of these questions is a qualifier for conditional love and conditional love only, not unconditional, deep-rooted love.
Separate yourself from the feeling. It’s not entirely about your life, yourself or ultimately how you feel about others. Let go of your own emotions, whatever suffering you are undergoing or have undergone, how unloved you’ve believed yourself to be or perceived or how little love you think you can give. Remove all expectations you have of others in any of the situations we just talked about, clear your mind of the negativity and focus on the meaning of love—true, unadulterated love. Unconditional love is what we should “be,” what we should exemplify and personify. According to all religions, Love is the most significant gift to the world. I am going to quote the Christian Bible but honestly look at any high vibration religion and unconditional love is the number one most important concept we must understand.
In 1 Corinthians 13: 1-3, it says, “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become a sounding brass or clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love it profits me nothing.” In this verse, it’s clear to see that it’s more than outward acts that prove our love, for instance, you can serve food at the soup kitchen every Wednesday, but not care about who is being served.
Okay, perhaps you do or don’t get all this, but let’s look at it another way: A puppy is what? DARN CUTE that's right! More than that a puppy is an independent living soul. When most people bring a puppy home, it fills their lives and their hearts. If a puppy were to, say chew a hole the pillow or piddle on the rug you would be upset by the actions and disappointed with the damage, but you would still love the puppy. This example is a very over-simplified description of a very complicated idea, but I think you get the picture.
Unconditional love has nothing to do with what we're accustomed to believing, about life, yourself or about others. Whatever suffering you have had to undergo until now, no matter how unloved you feel or how little love you think you can give has nothing to do with unconditional love. You are not defined by your roles, activities, the things you’ve acquired, or by how others see you. Unconditional love is not something you get from others or that someone can give you. It is not even what you offer to other. You can, however, experience unconditional love, because you are unconditional love.
Okay, here's the kicker, unconditional love is what you are! Unconditional love requires no other commitment, other than your understanding that you are 100% made up of the power that is unconditional love. It is perfect love without fear, without limitations, and without end. Think about what it takes to be…you. The probability of life itself, let alone the likelihood of YOU? A-one-of-a-kind-never-before-unique-wonderful-YOU! Unconditional love is the “glue” that holds our cells, our world and universes together. Unconditional love is the energy and power that holds our visible world together. Unconditional love fills in the blanks or what we consider space. It is every inch of you.
1 Corinthians 13 shows how unconditional love prevails, while all other spiritual gifts may fail, “love never fails.” All you have to do is "be" because you are unconditional love. There is no “sin” that you can commit that could separate you from the love that you are or from what you choose to call your higher power. Once we fully understand unconditional love, it’s easier to strive for that completeness in love. First, you must let go of the false portrayals this world has flooded us with through books, TV, movies, and even on commercials. Then, you can begin to embrace the awesomeness of this gift that is you on a much higher level, incorporating other gifts (peace, joy, patience, self-control, kindness) along the way.
To put ‘unconditional love’ into practice, start by being kind to yourself. Then spread out and offer a kind gesture without any expectations. Maybe give a friend a card, a co-worker a coffee, or go out on a limb, find someone you don’t even know and do something for them. Do it quietly, don’t go bragging. Sometimes it’s hard to keep in, because when you entirely give of yourself unconditionally, you with no expectations, you may just discover this overwhelming sense of joy, which fills your heart.
Can you imagine what a better world this would be if we all put unconditional love into practice?